An Open Letter to Everyone
- Ravi Shanker
- Sep 14, 2023
- 7 min read
Updated: Feb 3
You are not Alone!!
Hello.
Everyone here belongs to professional community and is well aware of what is happening in economy and the world. We all know that in recent past there have been exponential changes for humanity as a whole including the changes in science, technology, society and gender based equality.
However, I feel that with all these advancements, we are somewhere not focussing on our own human and psychological aspects. I am talking about the lack of acknowledgement by ourselves and ignoring our emotional self or emotional sides.
Today, despite of having 100s or even 1000s of friends surrounding us on social media and parties, we are more lonely than ever. We have all material comfort at our disposal and we can order anything with the help of money and technology but this is also true that we are lonelier than ever and ignoring our emotional sides and emotional selves.
It is not uncommon that we find ourselves lonely at many stages in life.
Adolescents
Children are still by far the best in terms of emotional support because they still have some unconditional friends with them, in schools and colleges, albeit how many of them are so close that they can share their feelings with them in confidence is not hidden from anyone. Their parents are generally, these days, over occupied in their professional lives that now they have started talking about and taking pride in spending “Quality Time” with their children while the children, naturally, need more and more of their time to express themselves. Grand parents are not living together as families are more nuclear. Society is changing.
Professionals
When we start our professional journey, we make few friends but our life’s most important aspect, sadly, becomes that we have to gain wealth and status. Developing own emotional side and getting mature at that or having people help us doing that is generally not in our To-Do list during these days.
Adults - Working or Stay_At_Home
When a family is started, these aspects should, obviously, go away from life as we get a natural life long partner to share our emotional side. But it is not a best-kept-secret that it is not happening these days. Life partners living in same house sharing same bed are also alone. More alone than they ever used to be.
Seniors
When we age and we have accumulated a lot of wealth and our children are settled, we feel the worst nightmare of our lives that despite of having lots of money and respect in society, we are going through the loneliest phase of our lives. Our energies are declining, we have money, we have house and reputation but no one to talk to. No one to share the feelings. No one to discuss the news. No one to have a chat over Tea.
Trust me this is very depressing and the cause of many-many psychological, social and physical disorders at all ages.
There is Help
I have been a Listener Friend for people close to me since 2008 in my individual capacity. It is my natural self to lend an ear and talk to (90% listen) the people close to me and I see amazing changes in them. People need someone to just listen to what they have to say. It is so sad to see that those who want to talk a lot and have a lot to say have to stay silent as there is no one to listen to them. The changes are amazing when you speak to Listener Friend and these changes happen at all aspects of life if we lend the patient ear.
To help people overcome this obstacle and to let everyone know that THEY ARE NOT ALONE, we have started our venture called Listener Friend. It is purely offline venture with the sole motive of spreading the happiness and take away loneliness from the lives of everyone. My only intention is that no one in this world should suffer with loneliness and feel alone and think that they have no one to talk to.
To help the society at all levels of maturity and physical ability we have a few services to take care of all the aspects of human life cycle.
No one in this world should feel that they are alone. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
The future of our society is in children. They need to be told that they are not alone and they can share and talk to their friend any time, they should be told that there is always a “My Pen Friend” available for them. Trust me this is amazing when they receive and write a letter to their Pen Friend. It inculcates Concentration, Patience and Courage in them and these traits become part of their personality from budding years.
You may be school/college going person, a young professional, an adult struggling with your family or relationship issues, a stay-at-home home-maker, a mature senior professional or a retired senior.
You have to trust me about the feeling of holding the fountain pen in your hand and a clean paper on the table, write down your feelings on it, pour your heart’s content, fold it neatly, seal it in an envelope, go to post office (this is very hard part of the process) and post it. Then patiently wait for PEN FRIEND to write you back. My Pen Friend is a real person who has YOUR thoughts in mind when communicating with you and he cares for you. He will write you letters every week even if you never write anything back.
All of us need Hope, Patience, Courage and Happiness. My Pen Friend gives you all this and more. It ensures that you never feel that you are alone.
We live in nuclear families. We do not know our neighbours names. Children are living separately from parents even in the same city. People are getting lonelier day by day. Technology is taking us apart from humans and closer to machines. But we are not machines. We have emotions. We want to be cared. We want to talk. We want to see people around us. We want the feeling of being cared. We want to have confidence of talking to/calling to someone whenever we want to or whenever we need support. People are dying at their homes without even the next door neighbours realising it and finding it after days. Situation is changing. But there is hope. There is help. There is support. There is MY BEST FRIEND.
It is a tendency in society that we all limit our relationships. We devote most of our time for work and less and lesser time for any heart and emotion strengthening activity, including talking with friends and relatives. This creates a vicious circle and people tend to have few and fewer friends with whom they can talk freely and share anything and everything.
This leads to higher stress levels both for our body and mind. We always feel desperate need to have a friend with whom we can share everything. Who is never too busy to talk to us. Who listens to all we say with unending zeal. Never gets bored. And above all a friend whom we can trust and share anything without any fear of a secret getting revealed. We all need such a friend but don't necessarily have one. We feel emotionally heavy hearted but can't release those emotions.
My Best Friend is always there, on your side, for you. Just get in touch.
In their golden years, the elders are getting lonely day by day. Unknowingly and unintentionally younger generation gets so engulfed in own personal and professional lives that we tend to provide less and lesser time to our elders. At that age what they expect is not money or luxury but comfort of someone to talk to and someone to fill their loneliness. Due to their age and at times their declining health, it becomes difficult for them to go out and meet/talk with their friends. Mostly, same thing happens to their friends as well so they also can not come and meet them. This results in unhappiness and a state of depression which surrounds the elders in their old age.
But there is Hope. There is My Caring Friend. To take care and help and support the elderly. To let them know that they are not alone. They may not have their children/grand children available near them for any reason but My Caring Friend is no less. The only motive of My Caring Friend is to ensure that seniors feel confident, courageous, cared and reassured about their purpose of life.
If you know anyone who might be going through a tough phase in life on emotional front or someone suffering from Depression, Anxiety, Loneliness, Lack of Motivation or who is not happy, please request them to get in touch with Listener Friend and avail any of the services.
Most of the time, such people are not able to even recognise or accept (denial) that they are going through a tough phase in their lives. Being a caring person you can come forward and Gift a Care Service to them without even them knowing it. We will contribute our bit by giving you a valuable discount on the services to support your gesture of helping the needy.
Please also note that if you or anyone you supported by gifting the services, at any time, feel that they are not satisfied with the service, they are eligible for full refund of the value for the remaining period from the date of giving such request. So go ahead and gift the care to someone you love and care.
There may be times when you are going through a tough phase or rough day, your mood is not good, you had a fight with someone you love, you did not scored enough in an exam, your boss is behaving erratically with you or anything in the world bothering you, there is always someone to lean on. You or anyone can always contact Listener Friend support only via WhatsApp at +91-9-711-711-766 between 4.00 PM and 6.00 PM free of cost. Don't think twice before sharing your feelings. Just message to Listener Friend when your mood is not good and your friend will reply with the advice any normal friend can provide.
*Please note that Listener Friend is not a doctor or medical service provider or emergency service provider. Hence in case of any medical or emotional emergency, if you are not already a subscriber of My Best Friend or My Caring Friend, please consult your emergency service provider or local help.
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